Well just got off work and got to looking more closely at the car. The good news is I think I found the problem, the 40a pcm fuse under the hood was blown. (Cant get a new one til the wife gets back from the store..lol). Was pretty sure I checked all the fuses on-site, but somehow this one got overlooked during the "wth is wrong with my baby" mindset I was in.

Anyway thats obviously the cause, now I find myself wondering what caused it to blow, and am I going to need several onhand. Anyway I guess only time will tell.