You guys are absolutely right - it would be ideal to move down to the area and get established before picking a house and neighborhood. However, in my case, I know that I plan to stay in the area for a good long time, and financially, I really need to get out of renting and into buying. If I buy something decent to stay in for five years or so, I can always upgrade later. The key is finding something that my family and I can live in for that timeframe. I've got about 8 months to make a good decision, and with a few weekend jaunts down there, I think it's possible. That's why I'm asking for your good advice! 
That KBhomes site looks great! How can they offer custom built, new homes for so much less than the going rate for preowned houses in the area? Do houses in new neighborhoods typically go for much less than established neighborhoods? What about options and such? I couldn't find anywhere on the site where they spelled out specifically what that base price includes and what is considered an option. Does it include all the appliances and everything you need to make the house livable?
I'll also check out the North County Times and San Diego Union sites to see what they have to offer.
Thanks everyone for all your helpful advice!!
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