My husband and I have been through some incredibly tough stuff and we're still together and survived. If you want to work things out with your girlfriend and she wants to work things out with you but you are at an impasse, perhaps I can help. Email me if you, or your sweetie need to talk. I'm sorry for your pain. I really am. I can point you to what God has to say about relationships and making them work. Being as he is the one who invented the relationship, he should know what works and what doesn't, eh?