with the VX's snow manners!

I finally got my VX back from the ex-wife and drove it in the snow for the first time today. If my TOD is working correctly - IT SUCKS!!! I've owned several Cherokees and Explorers and never had a 4X4 that handles the snow so poorly! I saw a post a while back about someone doing a 360 in the snow by accident, and everyone said that shouldn't happen - I pulled away from a red light, turning right and almost swapped ends - the rear end swung around and pointed me sideways - without a lot of gas. I am VERY familiar with driving in slick conditions, and like I said have never had a 4X4 that handled so poorly. I've got the stock tires with 20k on them.

My TOD gauge was lighting up like a set of blinking Christmas lights - up and down, up and down everytime I took off (I wasn't doing jack rabbit starts - just normal, snowy condition starts). Seems like it should engage the front wheels and leave them engaged for a short while, instead of rapid engaging and disengaging. Is this how the system is supposed to work? If so, I'd like to figure out hosw to hook up a switch to leave the 4X4 high engaged for these kinds of conditions. I slid several times, and there was a lot of activity audibly going on in the drivetrain. Also, the ABS system seems extremely sensitive in these conditions, and would engage at the drop of a hat. I was looking forward to bragging about the prowess of the VX in the snow - now I'm hoping no one asked me how it did!