TOD problem solved. Saturday while the Springboks were beating the Aussies (at last), I was under the VX with multi meter and 14mm socket and ratchet in hand. Why socket and ratchet? To take off all the belly protection and get to the wires.
After a long search I couldn't find anything wrong with the wires. Even went so far as to put her on trestles and run her in all modes while I'm under her. Make sure you know what you do before trying this. A VX in 4L and 800rpm won't stop if it comes off those by accident....
All the wires to the front diff actuator checked out okay. 11v in 2H and 5v in H-TOD and 4L
When pulling out the one connector, I heard the solenoid go "click"....you won't hear this with the engine running.
The other one didn't do a thing, although the voltages on the wires are exactly the same.
I took the "dead" one off and found a lot of dust inside. After sending some WD40 through the pipes, it kicked back into life.
Re-assembled the whole lot, and the TOD is happy as a pig in the proverbial.