Thanks all

I should have mentioned that the only fluid not changed at the first shop was the transmission so they never actually touched it. If I thought they did it then I would be all over them. I have 128k on the car and I confess I didn't service the transmission regularly. After reading through this site about the nature of our transmissions I will follow the right protocols moving forward.

The TOD lights are still jumping today. Only when I'm going uphill and the conditions are dry and clear, no gravel.

Hopefully it will heal itself as I always hope my car will do

You may be right about the sensors. May have to take it back. We'll see