I went through the same thing years ago. On my VX even. But, when I had my repair order, I just had the tint replaced with "legal" tint. Understand, you can pretty much go as dark as you want on an SUV in MD, just follow the rules on the 2 side front windows and you will be left alone. That is the key.
I would almost agree with you on how silly it is to be petty about tint, but i guess putting yourself in their shoes and knowing you have to approach a vehicle that you can not see into because of tint makes one "overly cautious". Nothing like getting pulled over for a tail light out at gun point because your tint is dark and they have no clue what they are getting into. *shrug*
Gary Noonan
'01 S/C VX / '18 Forester XT