Hey Steve, its funny how similar we are. I just got my vx less then a month ago and its mainly because of all the people on this and the old club vmag board that I got so interested in it. I didn't just want a new mass production car/truck, I wanted a unique one that had a community to it.

I used to do the exact same thing in my 97 camry, just put it in neutral and coast. The transition was very smooth. I've done it a couple of times as a habit in the vx and I seem to have the same issue as you, so I stoped doing it. I do catch my self about to do it then I remember I shouldn't. This is also my first suv/awd vehicle so I'm guessing its just the way the TOD/tranny are designed compared to a "luxury" type car.