Welcome Cdub!! I gotta kick out of your priorities...
cup holder first!

It seems like you may benefit from the interior mods first and altogether. The VX is kinda loud and many folks have added Dynamat when doing their audio install. Look around here for some of that info - the door benefits from the matting quite a bit it sounds like... so as you tear into that you'll want to address any window binding issues (very common VX problem). When doing the back up cam consider how you are going to mount your exo spare tire so they can work cohesively.
That front bumper will have to be a one-off and will be complicated to make one look good on a VX - IMHO the lines of those anchors don't flatter a VX in the least.
You mentioned nerf bars and offroad... not that good a combo... consider rocker guards/sliders. Check out these threads:
http://www.vehicross.info/forums/sho...hlight=sliders
http://www.vehicross.info/forums/sho...hlight=sliders
You also mentioned mud and deep water - one issue you may find with that is the low mounted alternator getting fubar'd by all that gritty wet stuff. Not many have added snorkels so you'll be going custom on that as well. Goofy street lights on your frame will most likely suffer from all that as well and could cause electrical problems on the rest of your ride. Mud is just straight up harmful to a vehicle to keep that in mind when making decisions.
Also keep in mind that lowering your seats and raising the truck in combination limits your outward vision when offroading.
Good luck and keep us posted on your progress!!! OH and PICS!!!!