ok, here's an update, for those who care lol.
called the shop who installed the gears in july. They said that the 'bad fluid' they received was, in fact, just contaminated oil, but it was the correct weight, and it was definately gear fluid. i asked him why it would be 'unicorn blood' colored and he said that it was probably just some leftover flaking that had settled since my car sat for months over the summer. he said normally you wouldnt notice it, but because it had time to settle and i didnt drive it before i changed the fluid, thats why it looked so bad. Furthermore, he said that since i havent noticed any kind of bearing whine or any odd noises for that matter, its fine.
ill call a local shop here in colorado (that doesnt have any reason to make me believe its fine) next week to verify this stuff, but it was definately relieving.
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