This was my last reply:

"I requested the deposit because you said you wanted them and told me you were for sure coming to get them. I didn't know I had to say it was non-refundable as any deposit is usually that way. I'll have to see what I can figure out but you do what you have to do. I was very open to your needs when we first discussed this and even told you just to give me what you thought was fair. I didn't request any amount from you and even kept checking in with you because you had given me the deposit and I did not want to sell them out from under you. I didn't hear from you for awhile after the time you said you still wanted to meet but your plane was delayed or something. I thought I was being very considerate and easy to work with."