Can't let it go...

[spaceCADETzoom]

Well, if there's one thing that's common among most forums is a distinct hierarchy of "regulars" and visitors. It's one thing I've always liked about VX.info: a distinct lack of this "us vs. outsiders" vibe. Now, I don't necessarily think you were "wrong" on anything, Jamas. But I don't understand how anyone could not concede that your initial comments in that thread could be construed as rough. Key word, construed. Light jabbing, sure, but justnauty was a complete stranger whose classified ad had a heckler on the very first response. Tilt wheel? YEah, it illicits eye rols, or laughs. And yeah, good on you for bringing it up. But surely, something along the lines of, "justnauty, it would help you sell your wonderfuil vx if you posted pictures, mileage, and other information that is not a given on a forum of vx enthusiasts," has a less likely chance to offend than somthing snarky. Typing out that you were referring to the post and it wasn't personal is a lot like saying "by all due respect." It doesn't make the rest of the message all rosy. As moncha notes, it all just seems to be the thread starting off on the wrong foot; and limitations of internet forum communication leading to miscommunication. On top of this, she got jumpy...and there's that snowball.

Again though, I would like to point out that I'd hate this forum to become like all the other forums I've been through over the years and years (most of them dealing with specific cars). There's a distinct culture and personality here that's special. A culture that doesn't have some oligarch of jaded forum regulars that gang up on "newbs." With their inside jokes and snobby attitudes and blindly "having each others' backs." Can you see how much worse that thread would have been had it started off like it did, then snowballed even greater with posts from 10 other "regulars" telling jusnauty off? THe effect on that OP is not what I would lament. If it turned out to be several members telling OP how stupid she was rather than the needless exchange contained to just those two participants, I'd be tempted to completely leave VX.info myself (rather than the semi-lurking I've done for years).

[JAMAS]

But surely, something along the lines of, "justnauty, it would help you sell your wonderfuil vx if you posted pictures, mileage, and other information that is not a given on a forum of vx enthusiasts," has a less likely chance to offend than somthing snarky.

Okay, if that is the case. Why couldnt he have done the same.

justnauty could have just as easily said...

"if you are not interested in purchasing, please don't make any comments" or something to that tune.

I made a comment which I had honestly meant as a comment on the general ads of the global car industry. He clearly copied and pasted that ad from somewhere. Look in the paper, or listen to one of those car sales tv shows with the big guy selling cars as they drive through. "Its got A/C and floor mats, only $2,942" I meant no disrespect to his ad at all. If it came off that way, than HE misunderstood. Its pretty hard to misunderstand his attack on me. My reply to those attacks were a little bit more "snarky", but that is because of the un-deniable verbal attack. I have put alot of "good credit" in so when I make a misunderstood comment and need to withdraw some "bad credit" it shouldn't be a big deal. All this dude had was "bad credit". And no I am not leaving the site. My reason for saying that I hope this doesnt begin my dissapearance from the site, was becuase I dont want to continue to add trust and friendship "energy" towards the site if I didnt have the same coming from the other side. I would have simply become a "lurker" and read the troubleshooting threads as needed.

I appreciate the supportive comments and the light hearted joking to help clear the air.

I feel at this point, everything that needs to have been said, has. So since the horse is dead, lets not beat it any further.

[tom4bren]

So since the horse is dead, lets not beat it any further.

Great ... now ya just pissed off all the animal activists on the board.

[psychos2]

Okay, if that is the case. Why couldnt he have done the same.

justnauty could have just as easily said...

"if you are not interested in purchasing, please don't make any comments" or something to that tune.

I believe justnauty was a women and it was not her that posted the comments , it was her husband. shawn