I would start looking at the tod module, since you're not getting a check tod lite. Download the electrical manual and start checking voltage and continuity of wires.
Check your ground wires, there have been numerous problems caused by them.
Have you physically checked the tod module under the pass. seat? Maybe she stuck something under the seat and knocked a connector off?
Do you know whether the tod and/ or abs are actually working? Maybe the tod indicators are just burned out or disconnected???
There is some relation between tod and the abs sensors, so you may be tracing wires.
Good luck and report back whether or not you find a solution.